Regardless of whether or not you have (or are in the process of developing) a thriving carrier, after childbirth, you may find it hard to return to work and leave your little one in the caring hands of another family member, a nanny or the caregiver at a childcare.
While that is a normal feeling to have and a common inner struggle a new mom goes through, deciding to give into these feelings and deciding to become a stay at home mom is not for everyone.
First you want to take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself if you really truly can stay home and not return to your job. While you may miss your child if/when you return to work, it is also possible you will miss your job, doing other things that do not involve baby crying and diaper changing. Not every woman by definition wants/chooses to be with her child(ren) all the time. There is nothing wrong with being a carrier woman, wanting to be around adults for a portion of the day, and do thing to promote yourself. Being a Mom does not have cancel out other parts of your life if you don’t want it to.
If you decided your carrier can be on hold for sometime so you can devote yourself to your newborn, ask yourself if you would like to return to your job one day, and whether your employer will potentially take you back if you leave now to be a stay at home mom.
Before you do anything, calculate your expenses and see if you can afford to stay home with your child(ren). Many woman find that most or a good portion of their paycheck goes to the nanny or daycare, and if you prefer to stay with your baby, maybe you should.
Don’t make decisions without your spouse and really think about the implications and consequences.