Parenting is an art that is not taught in a class, but sometimes you may think maybe it should be.. We do our best to learn with our first child (then our second and third) what and how to do when, etc. We also make mistakes, hopefully learn from them and feel we are at least trying the best we can.

With the first baby, it is likely you are still in the dark about many things, and are trying out different approaches and methods to feel out which is appropriate for both you and your baby. Take bedtime routines, methods and theories for example. There are many of them, and on paper they may sound like a piece of cake, but in reality they may be harder to execute, and you always have to remember that your little one is an individual and hasn’t read the book you read..  So be patient and if one method doesn’t work, try another (make sure you give enough time for each method before you move on to the next).

With time and the development of your baby, you will start disciplining him/her. You may find yourself saying ‘NO’ a lot more than you have originally expected, or maybe a lot earlier than you thought you would. Once you decide it is time to start disciplining your baby, you’ll first have to consider your options and choose an approach. You should get Daddy on board so that you are not confusing yourselves or your child – consistency is key. However, you may find that that it easier said than done.

Remember that discipline is not only about saying ‘NO’. You also need to make sure to give your baby/toddler/child positive reinforcement and encouragement. A positive approach is crucially important for kids. Think of yourself when you were younger and try to remember what did and didn’t work for your parents and be creative in how you approach discipline and positive reinforcement with your own children.

Stay consistent with the approach you chose and remember to give your baby/toddler/child a lot of love and attention. By doing so, you are helping your child develop trust in you, and later in others.