Going for an epidural does NOT make you a bad mother or any less of a mother, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Deciding to give birth naturally without painkiller or getting an epidural is a decision only you can make for yourself.
While couples do discuss this possibility and make different decisions about childbirth together, this decision is yours to make. You are the one who is going through the pain of labor and childbirth, and no one else can go through it for you. Not your husband and certainly not your family or friends. Do not let anyone bully you into making a choice that is not right for you, as long as there is no risk to you or baby.
It is smart to plan ahead and think about pain management before you go into the delivery room. Do your homework and research or speak to your doctor about your possibilities, different ways to manage pain during childbirth, which is most suitable for you and why. If you need it, take your time in making this decision, but try to make it before it is time…
And when time comes, have a birth plan ready, but also be open minded about changes that may occur as things progress or if there is a new for an intervention.